Should You Invite Someone to Your Wedding If They Didn’t Invite You to Theirs?

Some people are good at holding grudges and revenging them when they get a slight chance.

They believe in tit for tat and won’t hesitate to practice.

If you are one of these people, you may be wondering whether to invite someone to your wedding when they didn’t invite you to theirs.

Should You Invite Someone to Your Wedding If They Didn’t Invite You to Theirs?

IT DEPENDS! Some people will say that you shouldn’t because if you are good friends, the other person would have invited you to theirs. In this case, it might seem like you care about someone who doesn’t show the same care.

However, other people would advise you to invite someone who didn’t invite you because weddings are about positive vibes and gestures.  It could be that you weren’t invited to the wedding because the guest list is limited.

Either way, it is up to you to decide who you want to invite to your wedding. So, if someone didn’t invite you and you feel like inviting them or don’t feel like inviting them, go for it.

See Also: How Many People Should You Invite to Your Wedding?

Eight Wedding Planning Tips

Deciding who your wedding guests are going to be can be stressful. It is more than just writing a list of people you want to enjoy your day with.

Some people shouldn’t miss your wedding. And there are others you may want to skip.

But how do you decide who falls in which category?

Here are some tips to help you choose your wedding invites.

1. Make a List with Your Partner

Because it is both your wedding day, you want to ensure that you are at par with who you want to invite.

Start the list with your immediate family, close family, close friends, and the ones you really want to be present at your wedding.

While this is not your entire guest list, it gives you a head start.

However, don’t involve your families at this point yet. Iron this starting point for the two of you first and ensure that everybody is okay before moving to the next step.

2. Decide Where to Cut Family Invitations

You don’t need to invite all your extended family members, especially if your budget is limited. No one knows the difference between first and second cousins.

So people assume that if one uncle is invited, all the other uncles and aunts also need to be invited.

This may not be a problem if your family is small. But for large families, you may feel the pinch.

3. Give Both Families an Equal Number of Guests

Once you have invited your family, decide how many extra invitations you have and divide them equally among families on both sides.

You can allow your parents to decide who to call but make sure they know the number is strict.

4. Decide About Children

It is up to you to decide whether or not you want children at your wedding.

There are pros and cons of having little ones at your wedding.

So, weigh them out and decide whether you prefer an adult-only celebration.

Note that most times, children are viewed as anyone under 12 years. So you can invite some and let go of some kids depending on the age gap.

5. Apply a Plus One Protocol

While you aren’t obliged to offer a plus one to all your guests, you may want to, especially if one is in a serious relationship.

For instance, if your cousin is married, engaged, or living together with their partner, you may want to include them to invite them.

6. Budget

Weddings are generally expensive. And one of the things that will determine how expensive your wedding will be is the number of invited guests.

Remember, even affordable venues charge per person, and this can significantly ramp up the costs if your guests are many.

If you’re budget is limited, you need to keep a tight guest list.

But if money isn’t an issue, you can invite as many people as you want to.

At the end of the day, you won’t know who was and wasn’t there as you will be busy focusing on your day.

7. Guest List Size

Even if money isn’t the issue, you need to think about whether you want an intimate, simple celebration.

That will help you know who to invite and who to leave out, including a couple that didn’t or did invite you.

Remember that you could have made it to their guest list because they were throwing a massive bash and invited just above everyone.

Most people will understand your wishes to have a small intimate celebration. So, don’t worry yourself so much.

8. Relationship

You need to ask yourself how long you have known the person, how is your relationship with them, do you keep in touch, and will the person be in your life 10-20 years from now?

You need to figure out how your relationship with a guest will be affected if you don’t invite them to your wedding.

If you value the relationship and are scared of losing it, maybe you should reconsider and create a spot for them on your guest list.